So you meet someone, you like them. You think you could be friends with this person. And you hang out and your schedules start intermingling, you hang out regularly. You are happy with this friendship.
And then you discover a fundamental value or priority they have that is seriously in contradiction with your values. Which is important because if you are to spend time together sometimes you are going to spend time doing the things that have inherent value to you, BUT with this conflict it means you are going to have to continue looking for the perfect friend who challenges you, makes you laugh and lets you be yourself, even though they are different from you.
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Just whinging about discovering some things about those I thought would be close to me in the long run.
I get that we are meant to interact with people who are different and my inner circle CAN be different but as far as the value they put in Christ and the value they put in their looks: This is non-negotiable the poeple in my inner inner innner super inner circle that I am sure by the time I die will contain 2 people (my husband and best friend) must value God above all else and must not value their looks above all else (If I have to wait for you to put on make up I'm not going to be waiting very long).
PLUS they must not value poeple's opinions.
Someone once came to visit my family home and she spent hours on makeup and then when we FINALLY left the house she would take pictures with the spirit of proving to others that she had fun, saw things, etc. Even staging pictures to portray a particular message, it was so tedious spending time with her, frustrating, and NOT fun, the pictures look fun but the experience was annoying.
So if hanging out with you gives me flashbacks to this lady you will not be in my inner inner circle and that's a bit sad.
Oh plus I don't drink and people in my inner inner inner circle don't drink either.
People in my inner circle can drink, can value their looks, can worry about what others think about them and even act upon it, but their are not going to be the ones I call at 1 o'clock in the morning when I have a mental breakdown (let's hope not), you know?
I hope that makes sense. I love people. I love God's creations, but I need a certain type of person to stand by my side to help me be the kind of person I want to be and that only happens if we are both walking in the same direction, it doesn't work if you don't value what i value.
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I am a bit sad to think I'm still looking...but eh such is life.
